Our house is still on the market. We had a buyer after the first open house in early June. She backed out after nearly a month. Nothing is wrong with our house; she didn't get an offer on hers after just 2 weeks and panicked. She felt overextended and pulled her house off the market.
I've been working very hard to let go of my anger, resentment, and negative energy over this. Part of me felt that offer was too good to be true, but I still trusted that buyer. She said she loved the house and really did want it. But her actions have screwed us over. Out of consideration for her and her offer, we did not aggressively market the house for that month. Once she pulled out, we needed to launch back into action. And now I worry that our house has the inaccurate reputation of "well, it's been on the market for 48 days so something must be wrong with it."
Because I basically suck at not being able to control a situation, I've been searching for anything to help me feel as if I am helping the process along. We continue to do the minor repairs and touch-ups that don't really make or break the sale of a house, but make us feel as if we've left nothing to chance. We've buried Saint Joseph upsidedown next to the "For Sale" sign and I've searched for blessings that are meant to attract buyers and/or inspire a quick sale of a property.
While all the blessings and props vary, they share a recurrent theme of clearing the house of the existing energy, letting go of the house and the fear of the sale, and allowing the house to seek and accept new energies/occupants. There's nothing in the blessings about buyers; it's all about the current owners letting go. So I'm wondering if my stress about the process and my annoyance toward that first buyer is getting in the way of an offer. I don't mean a direct link, but maybe the energy of this house is disrupted by my negativity and instead is directing itself toward caring for me and my family, as it's done for 11 years.
I was a talking to a friend yesterday about how we search for direction and action in times of despair or confusion. The conversation turned to the idea of appealing to the energies of the Universe, prayers and spirituality, psychic power, and vision boards. She told me that once, years ago, she had a cat who was very anti-social, mean, and destructive. Nothing seemed to help this cat; not a change in diet, full veterinarian exams, or catnip. Even for a cat this one seemed particularly "unhappy" with life. After about a year of trying to connect with the cat, my friend was referred to a pet psychic (she was living in San Francisco at the time). She called the psychic, who apparently didn't need to visit or meet the cat, but over the phone could sense the problem. According to the psychic, it wasn't the cat's issue, it was my friend. The pet psychic advised my friend to let go of negative energies and be more open and welcoming to affection. She claimed my friend subconsciously did not want to own a cat and had thus inadvertently disrupted the natural flow of energy.
My friend thought this was a bit odd, but admitted that she likely wasn't very appealing to the cat now since she really didn't like the cat anymore. She chose to give the cat away, and has had better success with other cats since.
This friend tells this story as "proof" that the psychic was just a step away from scam. After all, it's impossible to prove the psychic was wrong. But to me it is the essence of cognitive behavioral therapy--by changing our thinking we can change our behavior and vice versa. And that if we seek change in others we must first change ourselves, because we ultimately can't change another person. They might change in response to us, but true change is internal.
All this leads me back to seeking blessings to attract a buyer. While some of my external behavior indicates the change is in process (we close on the new house in 9 days and are scheduling movers), maybe I haven't really let go of this house.
I am encouraged this weekend, though. I've done some of the blessings, have a smudging ceremony planned for tomorrow morning before the open house, and will burn candles and incense aimed at attracting peace, harmony, and creativity. And here I publicly forgive that buyer, Ms. J.W at 19 S. St. I'm sorry it didn't work out. The house and I forgive you, and are ready to transfer our energies to a new buyer.
Oh, and we're in a waxing moon phase, which is the recommended time for attracting new energies.
A buyer is out there, and I have faith the Universe will direct them to our house this weekend.
